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Going Han Solo: Dad’s View

If any of you are even 1% the Star Wars nerd that I am, the title of this story must have you eager for more information on how you, too, can become like the most famous scoundrel in all the universe.  But, sorry to break it to you, if that ability was within my grasp, then teach you I would not.

Nah, in this article we’re going to talk about teaching the youngsters how to go out on their own, leave the nest, cut the cord, to go at it “solo”.  It’s a difficult move for both the master and the student; however, it must be done.  Do or do not; there is no try.  I know what you’re thinking, “I have a bad feeling about this,” but trust me, search your feelings.  This is not a trap.

If you’ve already started loosening the rope with your urchins, then, great, but don’t get cocky.  Keep up the good work; you would be unwise to lower your defenses.  If you haven’t let them loose, then know that even if you aren’t afraid; you will be… you will be.  It’s not as terrifying as you think, and like I always say, “Never tell me the odds.” Always have a new hope for what will happen next.

For some people, letting go of the parent/child magnetic force is overwhelming. Trust me, though, this feeling is just a phantom menace, and could only lead one to go rogue later in life.  Sure, sometimes you may feel clumsy, sometimes you may feel stupid, and sometimes the little droids in your life cause you a lot of trouble.  Just remember to always awaken the ability in you to break this force.

This change in parenting may start a battle between husband and wife, but remember, wars do not make one great.  It may seem like an insurmountable task–just remember there is always a bigger fish.  Your little ones may not want to venture out, but rather stay with you.  Do not underestimate their power – judge them by their size you should not.  Have patience.  Do not fear, as fear leads to anger, anger leads to hate, and hate leads to suffering.

So, let go, and let them take that bike trip to their friend’s house, or to Walmart to get an Icee, or maybe even all the way down to the Tosche station to pick up some power converters.  Stay on target; one time has to be the first time to let them explore the world.  I know what you’re thinking: we’re made to suffer, it is our lot in life, and/or no reward is worth this.  Sometimes you have to unlearn what you have learned.  Remember, concentrate on the moment.  Feel, don’t think; use your instincts.

You may think I’m foolish for leading you down this path, but who is more foolish….the fool, or the fool who follows him?  Trust me; do not allow me to find your lack of faith to be disturbing.  Remember that your focus determines your reality.  You must do what you feel is right, of course, even though you may think you’re getting too old for this sort of thing.  Know that you at some point you must let go; you cannot escape your destiny.  Now, be brave and don’t look back.

Author’s Note:

Some of you may be really confused about the syntax and language of the accompanying article.  This is what happens when a 40-something-year-old guy watches a Star Wars marathon while writing.  For those of you non-Star Wars fans (or stinkin’ Trekkies) most of the sentences and phrases in this article come from the 8 Star Wars movies. There are over 40 references.  Good luck finding them, or, as we Star Wars aficionados say…..May the force be with you.

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